Valentine’s Gifts For Increased Intimacy
Intimacy isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about feeling seen, desired, understood, and connected in the everyday moments of your relationship. It’s the conversations you finally make time for, the laughter that comes from shared experiences, and the intentional choices to show up for one another again and again.
This Valentine’s Day gift guide is for couples who want more than a quick gesture. These are gifts that invite closeness—physically, emotionally, and relationally. Whether you’re nurturing a long-term partnership or reigniting sparks that feel buried under the weight of life, these ideas are meant to help you slow down, lean in, and reconnect.
Gifts for Intimacy
These are gifts that go beyond the surface—inviting connection, vulnerability, and presence by helping couples feel more emotionally and physically close.
The Prim: I saw renowned sex therapist Vanessa Marin recommend this. She said it is the only product they use an affiliate link for on Instagram because she believes in it that much.
Mentionables Lingerie: Beautiful lingerie that feels approachable, flattering, and confidence-boosting—because intimacy often begins with how we feel in our own skin. I love that the lingerie is always shown on mannequins and not models, so no comparing bodies to your own.
Coconu: Without question, one of the best lubes I have used. It is silky smooth and not sticky. They have both water and oil based (I love the water based). Also, the travel packs are great for discreetly packing for a trip. Buy from Amazon or the Coconu website (use code JESSICAT on the Coconu website for an extra 15% off)
Savage x Fenty Lingerie Subscription: A monthly reminder that desire doesn’t have to be a one-time thing—this subscription invites ongoing playfulness, confidence, and celebration of your body. I have had a subscription for a couple of years and have found the pieces to be beautiful, nice quality and sexy.
Vipstick serum: Add a little extra self-care with Vipstick Serum. This gentle, skin-nourishing intimate serum helps hydrate delicate areas and enhances sensitivity for more comfortable, connected moments. Thousands of rave reviews!
Valentine’s Inspired Pajamas
Cozy, playful, and intentional, these pajamas turn ordinary evenings into moments of togetherness and remind us that intimacy often starts with slowing down.
Cool Nights pajama shirt: Soft, breathable, and comfortable enough for real life—perfect for cozy nights that linger into meaningful conversations. Love the sweet pattern of hearts and ribbons.
Cool Nights pajama pants: Be sure to also buy the matching pajama pants. They are so so comfortable and perfect for slow evenings in.
Cool Nights lace shirt: A red pajama shirt with a little lace, makes this one of the most sexy pajama shirts I own. Absolutely love how soft it is too.
Cool Nights lace pants: These pajama pants are so soft and have lace that runs down the side of your legs. I had no idea that regular pajamas could make me feel so sexy!
Target heart pajamas: Playful, festive, and sweet—these pajamas add a lighthearted reminder that intimacy can be fun and joyful.
Walmart heart pajamas: An affordable way to mark the moment and lean into shared rituals, even in simple ways.
Books to Bring You Closer
The right book can open conversations you didn’t know how to start, offering language, insight, and encouragement to grow together.
Smart Sex: A thoughtful, empowering read that helps couples better understand desire, pleasure, and communication without shame.
Sex Talks: This book creates a roadmap for the conversations most couples avoid—but desperately need—for deeper intimacy.
The Next Conversation: Because intimacy grows when we learn how to move forward instead of staying stuck in old patterns.
A Better Share: A powerful reminder that emotional and relational labor impacts intimacy—and that equity can bring couples closer.
Card Decks for Conversation
Sometimes all it takes is a good question—these decks make it easier to move past small talk and into meaningful, connecting conversations.
Sex Talks: These conversation cards make it easier to bring up the topics that matter most — helping couples talk honestly about desires, boundaries, and connection in ways that deepen understanding and closeness.
Fair Play: When resentment decreases, intimacy has room to grow. This book helps couples rebalance life so connection can flourish.
The Ultimate Intimacy Game: A playful, intentional way to reconnect emotionally and physically through guided questions and prompts.
Best Self Intimacy Cards: Designed to spark meaningful dialogue, these cards help couples move beyond surface-level conversation.
Tell Me More: Perfect for couples who want to deepen emotional intimacy by learning how to listen—and be heard.
Past, Present, Future Cards: A simple but powerful way to reflect on where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going—together.
Let’s Get Deep: Because intimacy grows when couples ask real questions and create space for honest answers.
Why Don’t We Spice It Up: A lighthearted, flirty way to invite novelty and curiosity back into your relationship.
Journals to Do Together
Shared journaling creates space for reflection, appreciation, and intentional check-ins that strengthen emotional intimacy over time.
Our Bucket List: Dreaming together builds connection—this book invites couples to imagine and plan a shared future.
A Year of Us: Daily or weekly reflections that help couples stay emotionally connected throughout the year.
One Question A Day: Small questions, big impact—perfect for busy couples who want consistent moments of connection.
The Story of Us: A keepsake that helps couples reflect on their journey and celebrate the relationship they’re building.
A Couple’s Love Journal: Writing together can be a surprisingly intimate practice—one that deepens understanding and appreciation.
Activities to Do Together
From adventures to quiet nights in, these experiences help couples create shared memories and rediscover the joy of simply doing life together.
The Adventure Challenge: This scratch-off book invites couples into new experiences that break routine and create shared memories.
The Adventure Challenge Version 2: For couples who’ve already scratched once—new adventures, same goal: deeper connection.
The Couples Activity book: A fun, low-pressure way to engage, laugh, and reconnect without overthinking it.
A Couple Cooks: Cooking together is about more than food—it’s about collaboration, presence, and shared enjoyment.
The Adventure Challenge: Dinner Dates: Date nights made easy and intentional—because intimacy often grows when we simply show up together.
Hand casting kit: A tangible reminder of togetherness—this kit captures a moment in time and turns it into a lasting symbol of connection.
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about grand gestures or perfectly planned moments. At its core, intimacy is built through intention—choosing to show up, to listen, to laugh, and to reconnect in ways that feel meaningful for your relationship. Whether you pick one small gift or use this list as inspiration for how you want to love each other more fully, my hope is that these ideas encourage you to prioritize connection long after the holiday has passed. Because the most lasting kind of romance is the one rooted in presence, understanding, and choosing each other—again and again.
For more Valentine’s Day gift ideas, check out these gift guides with ideas for men, women and kids.